intimacy, kink and sexuality coaching

Everyone has questions about their body, their turn-on, fantasies and wondering what is "normal". 

As a somatic sex educator (Certified Sexological Bodyworker, CSB) I've been professionally trained to do hands-on erogenous body work, teach the art of pleasure, communicate desire and heal sexual shame. ‘Embodiment’ which is deeper presence, awareness and understanding of what is going on in your body and in sex. 

My students are curious, open to exploring their erotic selves on a deeper level and become 'Master Lovers' as receivers and givers. They are all genders, sexual preferences, married, polyamorous, monogamous, single, young and old. I work with adults 21 and older.

  • Coping with 'erectile disfunction' (ED)

  • Tantra to prolong pleasure and delay ejaculation 

  • Questioning gender and coming out

  • Feminization, cross dressing with confidence* 

  • Feeling shame or embarrassment*

  • Sexually inexperienced or a virgin

  • Trying out sex toys

  • Asking for exactly what you want in the bedroom

  • Sex during menopause and coping with vaginismus

  • Having difficult conversations about sex with your partner

  • Learning Dominance/submission play

  • Strap-on play, pegging and prostate pleasure

  • I also offer one or two day emersion playshops for couples.


Hiring an intimacy coach is like working with a sex therapist, a couples counselor and a trusted confidante. I listen without judgement while taking an outcome based approach. I am the catalyst to empower my students.

*If feeling "ashamed" ,"humiliated", "inadequate" is a turn-on (empowering), you have a humiliation fetish. I love role playing kinky fetishes as a dominatrix (not in my coaching work). Book a Role Play Fantasy session instead.

Coaching sessions are not a one-session-and-fixed deal. They require a commitment to a regular practice. Before you commit, we will have a phone introduction to discuss your needs, goals and answer all your questions about coaching in a 30 minute phone call. The $35 fee will be credited back to your coaching sessions or a package.

Individual coaching sessions by phone


Individual coaching sessions by video


Intensive Playshops for couples 


A hands-on weekend Playshop over one or two days. Usually taking place in Portland, Oregon but I can also travel to your city with travel fees added on. Please inquire in our phone introduction for more details. 

Thirty days of coaching and growth

We connect twice a week to keep you on track and put your goals into action for lasting transformation. You will have assignments to complete between sessions.

Four weekly one-hour video sessions

Four 30-minute follow up phone sessions (or emailing if you prefer.)

Inquire in our phone introduction for more details.

Questions and Answers

Can I book coaching sessions as well as fantasy sessions?

Yes, however-- you need to understand they are very different sessions, even though there's a sexual component to both. When I'm coaching you, I am a teacher; Not a Mistress or Domina. Fantasy role play is like the hot fudge sundae after having a savory nourishing meal (don't we all crave decadent sweets treats?) However, my best students don't just live by dessert alone, and they certainly don't mix the ice cream into the caviar (you will be asked to leave my kitchen if you do; )

Are you a licensed therapist?

No, I am not a therapist or MSW counselor. I am a Certified Sexological Bodyworker (somatic sex educator, CSB.) If you are seeking psychotherapy, I have a list of sex-positive and kink affirming professionals I can refer you to.

What company do you use for video sessions?


I prefer using Zoom (password encrypted) but I'm open to other applications. I use encrypted technology for phone calls, texts and emails.

I'm worried about my privacy. 

I don't share your personal information with anyone. For credit card processing, you will not see my name, or anything associated with my name or website on your billing statement. 

To schedule your introductory call for coaching, email me.

Let me know a little bit of your background and some times to schedule our call. I will get back to you within 48 hours. If you don't hear back, check your spam folder. 


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